Wednesday, March 12, 2014

They’re only words? Keeping the language of interior design beautiful.

I’ve thought about writing this post for a while, and somehow, today seemed like a good day to share it.  I was somewhat inspired by the courageous post of another designer, but in a different sort of way.

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I chose to be an interior designer for many different reasons.  I do love the ability to work in an industry where functional solutions provide the capacity for amazing living experiences for folks.  I’d like to think my clients reap the benefit of that acquired knowledge.  One of the biggest reasons I’m here; however, is that I appreciate beauty.  I love beautiful images, beautiful flowers, and beautiful design execution.  I also love beautiful spirits and beautiful language.

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Because I write a blog and I also communicate on other social media channels, I hope I paint a verbal picture in a way which shows my readers how beauty is an essential part of the world.  Life may have less than stellar moments, but I don’t think you’re tuning into an interior design blog or other such channels to read about drama, tiffs, or to be entertained by it being shared in a particularly coarse manner.  If you do like the stuff of reality TV, my blog definitely will seem like milk toast to you.  I choose not to fan any glowing embers for the mere sake of it. 

Everyone is different, I realize, and I’m not saying that in the heat of the moment I’ve never expelled frustration in a way which might bring a burn to the apples of someone’s cheeks.  No excuses and no polishing of a rusty halo, here. 

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I do know this to be true for me . . . Words are about intention.  Keeping certain ones or some commentary to oneself isn’t about being less than authentic.  Filtering isn’t an act of fakery or being lazy.  Far from it.  It takes great thought to determine the ultimate cause and effect of what is said or written.  The cause and effect isn’t just about the recipient, either.  In this wide-open world, a lot of people are looking in.  I know I’m pretty astute at picking up on character without a lot of verbosity. 

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Anything which degrades or belittles a person or their work, can also bring that “ick” factor to any reader.  We are a lot of what we absorb from our surroundings.  Why not let ALL of it be as lovely as it can be? 

I’ll reiterate for me, it really is about the intention.  Is the exchange meant to be a teaching moment, sprinkled with compassion?  . . . Then let it be done in private or within a respectful connection.  Let’s put it this way:  Who would normally stand for their child to be put in front of the entire school to “be taught a lesson?”  Or picture being a fellow staffer while the boss dresses down a peer, even if they have erred.  I think those instances take the deliverer down quite a few notches, or “cool points”, if you will.  It appears they don’t have things under control so they need an audience to back them up.  Sometimes it can create a divide or worse yet, a “pack” mentality.  Compassion isn’t necessarily about emotion; it also includes sound judgment.  It should allow us to think before we speak – or write. 

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There is enough “ugly” in the world without having our words contribute towards it.  I’ve decided to cancel some of my reading subscriptions, for this very reason.  Unlike, unfollow, unfriend, whatever the case may be.  I’ll admit, I found myself feeling less than enthusiastic, less encouraged, and less supported/supportive by continuing to stay attached when I questioned the underlying reasons. 

One more thought:   Whether you’re an interior designer or part of the consumer public . . . just because you CAN say it, doesn’t mean that you SHOULD.  When it appears there is an open invitation to jump on the nasty bandwagon, just send a mental RSVP and move along. 

Better yet, don’t get that party started.  Once the conversation turns to the darker side, it will be difficult to extract what’s been said.  Does it seem you’re a supporter of that person or thought?  There is guilt by association, you know?

Life is short.  Keep it beautiful.

All my best ~ Wanda

1 comment:

Terri Davis said...

Beautifully written sentiment of which I wholly agree! So glad I took the time to read and will be visiting more often!

Thanks for sharing my posts!

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